I Love YOU

I was thinking about this this morning, and seem to have had several conversations with clients around the topic so thought perhaps was time to muse more here.

How often do we say this to people? I would say several times a day I do. And to ourselves? Well my brief and incredibly statistically unreliable survey so far said 5/5 of people questioned didn't say any loving words towards themselves at all.

And then we wonder why we feel bad? I'm personally not of the affirmations school, and whilst they may work for many, it doesn't work for me. But to genuinely look at yourself and see someone you like or even love, something you like or love, and to take the time to realise that you are loveable too is different. Maybe my survey is mostly women, many mothers who do do everything for someone else and they come last. Still, I think this phenomena exists outside this group with so many.

If we really, truly value ourselves will we put up with some of the things we used to? I'm not sure we would, or may at least step in feeling more empowered. The Fifth Agreements work would suggest that we tolerate abuse up to the limit that we abuse ourselves and above that say enough is enough. So if we're busy abusing ourselves (for our skinniness, fat thighs, round cheeks, pointy nose, sticky out bum or stretch marks, quiet nature, anger towards others, excessive joy or whatever else we choose to pick upon) then why wouldn't someone else?

Just one to muse on. And feel free to let me know what you think... or take a few moments to think what you love about yourself and how you might show this.

With love,

Em x

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