Find Your Happy...

It was earlier this week when, after an afternoon of a somewhat grumpy partner (with fair cause to be, but took a lot of energy for Little Miss Not a Lover of Conflict), a pick up mission with a snappy teen, then I went off to the gym to find some calm.

What I was confronted with was the busiest class I'd been to, and a grapple for finding space... which isn't really my scene. Then when there was a moment of being patronised by a fellow attendee, I sort of snapped. Not outwardly, but I did leave the session. Which isn't really what I love to do, or done before, but I'd had enough. So I walked home, cried, cried some more, and finally recounted my stuff to Steve, the aforementioned grumpy (and also lovely) being from the afternoon.

It was a petty thing, a nothing, just on the back of an afternoon of irritation, it was the metaphorical straw that broke the camel's back.

My partner pointed out how he wasn't grumpy now, I'd helped him loads to feel better, by listening and also pointing out some things (I'd got him to stand under a cherry tree and talked about how the petals were all miracles, and that he was too), the girl was shocked that her snappiness had had any effect on me, and as to my gym experience, that's really my stuff to let go of, she was just being who she was. In reality, none of my business.

My daughter highlighted something interesting though, that 'you have the tools to help yourself on this one', or words to that effect. And yes, I'm grateful that I do.

Being happy, I don't believe anyway, is a constant state, a quest, or a mission, but a state of contentedness, an ability to feel joy. Real life is ups and downs, and if we can bounce back from moments such as this, after expressing the emotions we need to, if we can move forwards seeing mostly good in the world, instead of constant bad. If we can lift others up by being outselves, and step (even a little bit) away from our in built negativity bias (which I believe is out there to protect us from constant danger... it's just sometimes we're OK and still can't let go of it), then we're on a good path I feel.

FIND YOUR HAPPY - FIND OUT MORE

That's what I want to share on my Find Your Happy course - to chat about tools we can use to find more joy in the everyday.

I'm running it on Thursdays in May - 5th, 12th, 19th and 26th, from 7pm-8.30pm, and am keeping the cost low at just £100 for the 4 sessions. As ever, and I mention elsewhere on the website - I've done the single parent dance, I know money can be tough, and would rather someone were able to do it than not, so if the £s are a challenge, I'm happy to discuss it too.

If you've any questions about it, feel free to drop me a line.

Find out more here.

FIND YOUR HAPPY